Audrey Jolly
Love and Marriage
We think of marriage as a sacred union between two people, who have a deep love for each other. Marriage is a very special thing, because it allows one person to essentially give up their own individual project and incorporate another human being into their life. Marriage is all about sharing as well. Shared emotions, shared objects, shared space...I do not mean that there is no more individuality, but for there to be a healthy, loving marriage, the couple has to put the other first. And it is human nature to do the exact opposite, only thinking of our own needs and survival. We tend to be responsible to ourselves first, then put others later. But when we fall in love, these feelings of "selfishness" just seem to fade away. The spouse becomes a "thou," and sometimes the connection between the two people is so strong, one may refer to their partner as "their other half." Marriage teaches us how to put aside our own interests and projects, and we can learn how to be devoted to another person, instead of only to ourselves. In marriage, two people's life projects align, creating an "us," instead of an "I" and "It."
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